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You can call me Noi! This blog consists of my thoughts. I am just a simple person with BIG dreams! Like the charcoal, hot pressure and extreme heat must be present in order to create a Diamond. I am in the exact same process.
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I just came back from a crazy day! Attended Baz's wedding and then rushed over to meet Nad and Siti to go to Farhanah's place. I was walking to the bus stop at Eunoslink and the skin of my shoe had peeled off so everytime I walked I felt like my feet was burning! Plus the weather was super hot! I am so sorry to keep the girls waiting and but 51 took 25 minutes to arrive :p
I will write more about the wedding and cukur rambut @ Farhanah's tomorrow when the girls upload the pictures.
I had to go to my auntie's place after that, which means more walking. What made matters worse was, I was walking in the opposite direction! In the end I hailed the cab and realised that my auntie's place was only a 5 mins walking distance. Clever hor!
So what do you do when you suspect one of your relative has ADHD and another one has low IQ? Working with children, especially children with special needs, all these years, does not make me a child expert. However, NIE/DAS and experience has taught me well. I realised that I can spot students' learning difficulties better and clearer now. Which is a scary thing! While I do NOT go around 'diagnosing' children, you must admit that my suspicion and predicting is about 90% accurate.
So back to this dilemma, I knew something was off with this relative of mine but I did not want to say anything because you must admit this is a sensitive issue. So just now I was talking on and on about what I do, what my expertise is, why children behave a certain way etc. I was practically giving a summary of all that I know about children and special needs. My only intention is to help my relative understand a little bit more about this special need, and that its not the end of the world.
Conclusion: I dropped BIG hints that this relative of mine should go and get more information instead of forcing things onto the child.
My theory: A child will not want to do anything that he or she is not good at.
Therefore, if your child hates doing worksheet, why continue giving him something he hates? Learning should be enjoyable and satisfactory, not forceful.
I was also sharing strategies about how to break down the tasks, find out what is the underlying problems etc. I have always believe that there are no naughty children, only misundertood children.
From all that I gather, I know that these 2 relatives of mine, one still in school, one dropped out of school will continue to suffer in academics if nothing is being done. I was shocked when my relative said that her friend is going through the same thing and the family decided to marry her off? At 17 years old?
Getting married is not the solution to your problems!! Duh.
It was so shocking to hear this revelation! Me being the eldest cousin, I have to be a kepo right? I inherited this! :p Anyway, I told her to go get a job, get some work experience, nothing is impossible. Midway, I realised that I must be specific with her so I told her exactly where to go, what to wear, what to say, gosh.
I have been working since I was 16, as fast food crew, production operator at factory, admin assistant, tutor blah blah blah, I know that if you really want a job, and you are not choosy, you will get it!
I was also having a headache with all the shouting in the house. My God, how can children be so rude? I cannot accept rude children, my boys know me too well on this, its simply unacceptable. If you cannot learn basic manners, how do you expect to learn anything at all? One must understand that times has changed. Our children nowadays are immune to shouting, scolding etc. It just do not work. I know it, I tried it, I changed. At the end of the day, our children these days are smart enough to know you, more than you know. They will only love you and listen to you only if they know you care about them. I realise that I cannot simply teach, I must care too.
My boys know I care about them, because I verbalised it! So everytime they do something they dislike and say things like "I dont care!", I can always use this back on them. It works fantastic!
I came home and told mum and she was so worried because she knows I AM good at what I do so if I say THIS, it means that I am pretty sure. I will not declare anything that I am unsure of. Still, I really do not know how to tell someone this, its easy telling the parents in my school because they are strangers but when its family and there are strings attached, how do I go about doing this?
Ya Allah swt, thank You for the clarity You gave me to handle this situation :)
I go back to work tomorrow, I desperately need to clean up the classroom. I kinda miss my boys actually, the noise and all. Haha. Actually I realised I really miss the boys when I was sharing with my auntie about what I do at work. I will not be having classes with them so soon, only when the timetable finalises which will take at least a week.
I look forward to meeting my boys! Salam maal Hijrah to all Muslims!
