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First Impressions / Thursday, April 20, 2006 @ 6:55 PM
My landlord for this week, Mike from http://www.mikeelliott.blogspot.com triggered what I am about to write today. He wrote about how to impress people and I thought it was too interesting not to post a comment on his site. If you are a regular in BE, you will know that Mike potrays a great sense of humour in his writtings. Anyway, what happened was I was just browsing around at the 'Rent My Blog' feature in BE and saw that Mike's The Crikey Files charges reasonable prices for rent. I bid without thinking twice about it, you know just trying my luck. After that I went back to the BOTB page and somehow I have this unsettled feeling that I didnt bid correctly. Like I forgot to do something (its a disorder in me!) so I went back to the page and saw that Mike had already accepted my bid! That was really fast. It must be my lucky day.
Anyway Mike wrote about ho
w he impresses people. You dont even have to be a genius to do it. All it takes is some good posture, and some self confidence.As we grow older, I realise that our circle of friends are getting smaller than back in school. In school we seem to know more people because there was always a good reason to work with somebody, be it school project, or being lab partners. As we change classes every year, there will be new people in the class and you will somehow know them, at least by name. Am I right? By the time you graduate, you will discover that you practically know everyone in school. When we go out to work, we become tired. We are tired to get to know somebody, start from scratch, know each others likes and dislikes. It takes a lot of effort! We just want to stick with the people we have known for years so that there is no need for introductions. No need for awkward moments where we dont know what to talk about apart from the weather. This is mainly because, we are too tired to put in the effort to impress somebody. Come on, you are friends with your friends now because somewhere at the beginning of the relationship, you are impress by that person, and you want to be in their lives. This is what we do, we just didnt realise it.
In the same way, our sub conscious are constantly trying to impress others as well. We show to others that side of us that we want them to know. We will find ways to make ourselves interesting to at least send a brain signal to them, that we are worth being friends with. We do. Dont lie to yourself. However, no matter what we will have to go through that stage that we all dread - the first impression.
First impressions do last a long time. When my first impression of somebody is totally bad, even if we somehow became good friends in the future, that image of the first impression will always be there. We cant delete it from our brains. That is why we always want to make a good first impressions when we meet a new somebody.
Honestly, I have not had the greatest first impressions with many people. I was just talking to one of my schoolmates from 8 years ago and she was suprised that I can go on and on talking. She said that I was such a quiet girl. What in the world changed me?! Experience and time changed me honey. I am sorry that I am not that naive, quiet person I used to be but that was the first impressions many people had of me. It is impossible to change that image. I can understand that. Now, after meeting so many new people, I have discovered some pointers that can be helpful when you want to make a good impression on somebody.
1. Be comfortable. Wear comfortable clothes. People feel comfortable with people who are comfortable with their own self.
2. Eye contact. This used to be a huge problem for me but I overcomed it. Talk to people and look in the eye. Dont talk to someone with your eyes on somewhere else. Its rude.
3. Smile. It cost nothing and it means so much. If you smile at someone and that person do not smile back, it ok! Just say bye!
4. Do not keep talking about yourself. You will come acoss as self centered. When you ask about the person you are talking to, it will create some curiosity in them in wanting to get to know you. Its a win win situation.
5. Be sincere. There is really no point lying because people can see through your eyes. People can sense your sincerity.
Of course if your first impression of somebody sucks, it would be a good idea to give them another chance. Its normal that not everyone is as cool as they want to be.
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My landlord for this week, Mike from http://www.mikeelliott.blogspot.com triggered what I am about to write today. He wrote about how to impress people and I thought it was too interesting not to post a comment on his site. If you are a regular in BE, you will know that Mike potrays a great sense of humour in his writtings. Anyway, what happened was I was just browsing around at the 'Rent My Blog' feature in BE and saw that Mike's The Crikey Files charges reasonable prices for rent. I bid without thinking twice about it, you know just trying my luck. After that I went back to the BOTB page and somehow I have this unsettled feeling that I didnt bid correctly. Like I forgot to do something (its a disorder in me!) so I went back to the page and saw that Mike had already accepted my bid! That was really fast. It must be my lucky day.
Anyway Mike wrote about ho
w he impresses people. You dont even have to be a genius to do it. All it takes is some good posture, and some self confidence.As we grow older, I realise that our circle of friends are getting smaller than back in school. In school we seem to know more people because there was always a good reason to work with somebody, be it school project, or being lab partners. As we change classes every year, there will be new people in the class and you will somehow know them, at least by name. Am I right? By the time you graduate, you will discover that you practically know everyone in school. When we go out to work, we become tired. We are tired to get to know somebody, start from scratch, know each others likes and dislikes. It takes a lot of effort! We just want to stick with the people we have known for years so that there is no need for introductions. No need for awkward moments where we dont know what to talk about apart from the weather. This is mainly because, we are too tired to put in the effort to impress somebody. Come on, you are friends with your friends now because somewhere at the beginning of the relationship, you are impress by that person, and you want to be in their lives. This is what we do, we just didnt realise it.In the same way, our sub conscious are constantly trying to impress others as well. We show to others that side of us that we want them to know. We will find ways to make ourselves interesting to at least send a brain signal to them, that we are worth being friends with. We do. Dont lie to yourself. However, no matter what we will have to go through that stage that we all dread - the first impression.
First impressions do last a long time. When my first impression of somebody is totally bad, even if we somehow became good friends in the future, that image of the first impression will always be there. We cant delete it from our brains. That is why we always want to make a good first impressions when we meet a new somebody.
Honestly, I have not had the greatest first impressions with many people. I was just talking to one of my schoolmates from 8 years ago and she was suprised that I can go on and on talking. She said that I was such a quiet girl. What in the world changed me?! Experience and time changed me honey. I am sorry that I am not that naive, quiet person I used to be but that was the first impressions many people had of me. It is impossible to change that image. I can understand that. Now, after meeting so many new people, I have discovered some pointers that can be helpful when you want to make a good impression on somebody.
1. Be comfortable. Wear comfortable clothes. People feel comfortable with people who are comfortable with their own self.
2. Eye contact. This used to be a huge problem for me but I overcomed it. Talk to people and look in the eye. Dont talk to someone with your eyes on somewhere else. Its rude.
3. Smile. It cost nothing and it means so much. If you smile at someone and that person do not smile back, it ok! Just say bye!
4. Do not keep talking about yourself. You will come acoss as self centered. When you ask about the person you are talking to, it will create some curiosity in them in wanting to get to know you. Its a win win situation.
5. Be sincere. There is really no point lying because people can see through your eyes. People can sense your sincerity.
Of course if your first impression of somebody sucks, it would be a good idea to give them another chance. Its normal that not everyone is as cool as they want to be.
See more Motivation Posters at www.motivationposters.com/free
