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People Skill / Wednesday, March 29, 2006 @ 8:13 AM
I think the government should start teaching this as a module in schools. Do you come across times when someone say something to you or did something to you and you dont know how to react? I went through it so many times that I gave up trying to communicate with people. Seriously, I used to have the biggest communication problems with people that I have been labeled as arrogant when I was a lot younger. I was not taught how by any adult on any kind of people skill. Unfortunately.
And so the ye
ars went by. It baffles me how some people can get along so well with others. They are labeled as 'popular'. I have often wondered what is it that made them so popular among the rest. I dont really like to talk a lot before, I find myself uncomfortable revealing about myself. Maybe thats why among the hundreds of friends that I had in school, very few of them became my close friends even till now. Sadly. Although I was not the 'popular', I didnt make any eny enemies out of people either which I considered it good. Inside of me, I have always believe that you will get back what you do to others. Karma is very real.
Therefore now that I am in the people business, most of my friends from the past and families find it hard to believe. I find it hard to believe. People forget that people can change and that some of us choose to improve ourself for the better. What is upsetting is how some people still hang on to that image of the past and refuse to accept change. I realised that no matter in what industry one may be in, people skill is essential in one's success.
One of the best book to read about different personalities in people is 'Person
ality Plus' by Florence Litteaur. From this book, you will discover that there are generally 4 types of personalities. Even though there are some people who are 100% of 1 type of personality style, most of us, like me, are a combination between 2 of the personality style. This book was recommended by me by a friend and mentor. Previously. I could not understand why some people act the way they are. Only after reading this book, I realised that they have different personality styles from me.
You can take the personality style test here: http://lynn_meade.tripod.com/id139.htm
This is my personality style: A combination of melancholy and phlegmatic
MELANCHOLY STRENGTHS
The Introvert The Thinker The Pessimist
THE MELANCHOLY’S EMOTIONS
Conscientious
Idealistic
Deep and thoughtful
Analytical
Serious and purposeful
Genius prone
Artistic or musical
Philosophical and poetic
Talented and creative
Appreciative of beauty
Sensitive to others
Self-sacrificing
WEAKNESSES
Remembers the negatives
Moody and depressed
Enjoys being hurt
Has false humility
Off in another world
Low self-image
Has selective hearing
Self-centered
Too introspective
Guilt feelings
Persecution complex
Tends to hypochondria
THE MELANCHOLY AT WORK
Orderly and organized
Neat and tidy
Economical
Sees the problems
Finds creative solutions
Needs to finish what he starts
Likes charts, graphs, figures, lists
Schedule oriented
Perfectionist, high standards
Detail conscious
WEAKNESSES
Not people oriented
Depressed over imperfections
Chooses difficult work
Hesitant to start programs
Spends too much time planning
Prefers analysis to work
Self-deprecating
Hard to please
Standards often too high
Deep need for approval
Persistent and though
Imagine my shock when I read my weaknesses. At some level I know my weaknesses has always been there but I was not really aware of it. It has been my blind spot all this time. What is important after reading the book and taking the test is that you do not just categorise yourself into the diferent personality styles. What is important is you learn about your weaknesses and try to change as much as you can. In the meantime you can also capitalise on your strengths to help yourself change into a better person not just for you but also for the people around you as well.
The world needs all 4 personalities. We might as well know about them and be tolerant towards one another. Even though we may not get along all the time.
I think the government should start teaching this as a module in schools. Do you come across times when someone say something to you or did something to you and you dont know how to react? I went through it so many times that I gave up trying to communicate with people. Seriously, I used to have the biggest communication problems with people that I have been labeled as arrogant when I was a lot younger. I was not taught how by any adult on any kind of people skill. Unfortunately.
And so the ye
ars went by. It baffles me how some people can get along so well with others. They are labeled as 'popular'. I have often wondered what is it that made them so popular among the rest. I dont really like to talk a lot before, I find myself uncomfortable revealing about myself. Maybe thats why among the hundreds of friends that I had in school, very few of them became my close friends even till now. Sadly. Although I was not the 'popular', I didnt make any eny enemies out of people either which I considered it good. Inside of me, I have always believe that you will get back what you do to others. Karma is very real.Therefore now that I am in the people business, most of my friends from the past and families find it hard to believe. I find it hard to believe. People forget that people can change and that some of us choose to improve ourself for the better. What is upsetting is how some people still hang on to that image of the past and refuse to accept change. I realised that no matter in what industry one may be in, people skill is essential in one's success.
One of the best book to read about different personalities in people is 'Person
ality Plus' by Florence Litteaur. From this book, you will discover that there are generally 4 types of personalities. Even though there are some people who are 100% of 1 type of personality style, most of us, like me, are a combination between 2 of the personality style. This book was recommended by me by a friend and mentor. Previously. I could not understand why some people act the way they are. Only after reading this book, I realised that they have different personality styles from me.You can take the personality style test here: http://lynn_meade.tripod.com/id139.htm
This is my personality style: A combination of melancholy and phlegmatic
MELANCHOLY STRENGTHS
The Introvert The Thinker The Pessimist
THE MELANCHOLY’S EMOTIONS
Conscientious
Idealistic
Deep and thoughtful
Analytical
Serious and purposeful
Genius prone
Artistic or musical
Philosophical and poetic
Talented and creative
Appreciative of beauty
Sensitive to others
Self-sacrificing
WEAKNESSES
Remembers the negatives
Moody and depressed
Enjoys being hurt
Has false humility
Off in another world
Low self-image
Has selective hearing
Self-centered
Too introspective
Guilt feelings
Persecution complex
Tends to hypochondria
THE MELANCHOLY AT WORK
Orderly and organized
Neat and tidy
Economical
Sees the problems
Finds creative solutions
Needs to finish what he starts
Likes charts, graphs, figures, lists
Schedule oriented
Perfectionist, high standards
Detail conscious
WEAKNESSES
Not people oriented
Depressed over imperfections
Chooses difficult work
Hesitant to start programs
Spends too much time planning
Prefers analysis to work
Self-deprecating
Hard to please
Standards often too high
Deep need for approval
Persistent and though
Imagine my shock when I read my weaknesses. At some level I know my weaknesses has always been there but I was not really aware of it. It has been my blind spot all this time. What is important after reading the book and taking the test is that you do not just categorise yourself into the diferent personality styles. What is important is you learn about your weaknesses and try to change as much as you can. In the meantime you can also capitalise on your strengths to help yourself change into a better person not just for you but also for the people around you as well.
The world needs all 4 personalities. We might as well know about them and be tolerant towards one another. Even though we may not get along all the time.
