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Working With Idiots / Friday, May 05, 2006 @ 2:13 PM
What is it with people? I just had a really bad encounter with some people from work and its bugging me. I dont think anyone who has never e
xperience being a teacher can really understand what a teacher goes through. I can understand that as parents they are really concern for their child but some of them are in denial! Through the years, I have learned that the best way to handle parents who are overly excited about their children, is to stay calm, no matter what complaints or accusations are being thrown at us. I am using 'us' to represent myself and my fellow colleagues. My ex supervisor has taught me to always stand behind my own colleagues. Do not be on the parents side. Its important because if not, you will not earn the respect of your own colleagues, you will also come across as someone who backstabs others. So far, my colleagues and me have had a great chemistry together in working with kids. However there are times when parents take advantage of our kindness. In times like this, the normal reaction is to really explode and get all worked up.
I am proud of myself today. I didnt explode like I thought I would. A student from the morning class had complained to his mother about me yesterday. Apparently, I didnt allow him to have lunch and that resulted him to be hungry the whole day. When I heard the news today, I was like, "When the hell did I do that?" I have always been very careful with my words so dont mess with me. I called the boy into the office and asked what exactlyy he told his mother. My colleague was around of course. I have also learned that when I have conversations like this, there need to be more than 2 people listening and watching. If there are no witness, people can just twist and turn their words. I learnt this lesson the hard way!
This boy is in the afternoon session so he was at the centre in the morning and coincidently I teaching the morning class this yesterday. This was how the conversation went:
Me: So, what exactly did you tell your mother yesterday?
Boy: I didnt eat lunch.
Me: Why didnt you eat lunch?
Boy: I didnt finish my work.
Me: Ok, so did you actually heard from my mouth that I said you couldnt eat lunch?
Boy: No. (thought for a while before answering)
Me: So when did I say you couldnt eat lunch?
Paused. By this time, he looks like he just realised something.
Me: Did you come to me and asked whether you can eat lunch?
Boy: No.
Me: If you didnt ask me whether you could eat, how could I have told no? I didnt say you couldnt eat lunch, you assume you couldnt have lunch when you didnt manage to finish your work. Am I right?
Boy: Yes.
Me: So who is in the wrong now?
Boy: Me.
Man, I should have been a lawyer.
Throughout this conversation, I didnt even raised my voice. My tone was normal and I was pretty calm. I have learn not get myself worked up before investigating what really happened. But that does not mean I am not mad! Its frustrating that people see one thing and make their own assumptions. I cant stand people who know bits and pieces of a story and made their own story in the end to tell the world. Hello...God gave you 2 ears so you can listen to both side of the story and then be smart about it not judgemental.
Anyway I didnt even know why he didnt have his lunch. I didnt even disallow him to eat. Therefore it was ridiculous that I am being accused like that.
Another incident that has been ha
ppening these few days also involve another parent but this time it is with my colleague. You know, the usual, wild accusations, lies, pretences, being a hypocrite. I cant stand people like that. They want to know how to improve their children but when we tell them how, they are in total denial. Initially I couldnt understand why these parents refuse to work together with the teachers. Now I understand that some of them deny that a problem exists so that they dont have to deal with them. And dont think that we didnt approach it the right way. We did and it has worked well with some open minded parents. I cant help it if there are idiots out there.
Apparently some of the parents also thinks that a feedback from the teacher regarding a child is always classified as a complaint. Its like we have nothing better to do than to complain all the time. Heloooooooooooooo........if we dont care about a child, we wouldnt be getting all these headaches! We feedback because we care about the development of the child! My salary does not depend on the number of students who do well in studies!
I refuse to let this incident affect me. I am leaving anyway and everything that has been happening at work recently have further made me more determined and leave. Start afresh with other children who need more help. A change of environment is necessary for further growth. There is really no point in getting all worked up. I will get more lines on my face! I have also decided to send a proper 'good' resignation letter. I know my evil boss does not deserve such a letter, she deserve a more nasty letter from me. Someone told me not to fight with a pig. I wont win but we will both get dirty. Stooping down to such a level is pointless.
Things are starting to look up in business and job. I cant wait.
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What is it with people? I just had a really bad encounter with some people from work and its bugging me. I dont think anyone who has never e
xperience being a teacher can really understand what a teacher goes through. I can understand that as parents they are really concern for their child but some of them are in denial! Through the years, I have learned that the best way to handle parents who are overly excited about their children, is to stay calm, no matter what complaints or accusations are being thrown at us. I am using 'us' to represent myself and my fellow colleagues. My ex supervisor has taught me to always stand behind my own colleagues. Do not be on the parents side. Its important because if not, you will not earn the respect of your own colleagues, you will also come across as someone who backstabs others. So far, my colleagues and me have had a great chemistry together in working with kids. However there are times when parents take advantage of our kindness. In times like this, the normal reaction is to really explode and get all worked up.I am proud of myself today. I didnt explode like I thought I would. A student from the morning class had complained to his mother about me yesterday. Apparently, I didnt allow him to have lunch and that resulted him to be hungry the whole day. When I heard the news today, I was like, "When the hell did I do that?" I have always been very careful with my words so dont mess with me. I called the boy into the office and asked what exactlyy he told his mother. My colleague was around of course. I have also learned that when I have conversations like this, there need to be more than 2 people listening and watching. If there are no witness, people can just twist and turn their words. I learnt this lesson the hard way!
This boy is in the afternoon session so he was at the centre in the morning and coincidently I teaching the morning class this yesterday. This was how the conversation went:
Me: So, what exactly did you tell your mother yesterday?
Boy: I didnt eat lunch.
Me: Why didnt you eat lunch?
Boy: I didnt finish my work.
Me: Ok, so did you actually heard from my mouth that I said you couldnt eat lunch?
Boy: No. (thought for a while before answering)
Me: So when did I say you couldnt eat lunch?
Paused. By this time, he looks like he just realised something.
Me: Did you come to me and asked whether you can eat lunch?
Boy: No.
Me: If you didnt ask me whether you could eat, how could I have told no? I didnt say you couldnt eat lunch, you assume you couldnt have lunch when you didnt manage to finish your work. Am I right?
Boy: Yes.
Me: So who is in the wrong now?
Boy: Me.
Man, I should have been a lawyer.
Throughout this conversation, I didnt even raised my voice. My tone was normal and I was pretty calm. I have learn not get myself worked up before investigating what really happened. But that does not mean I am not mad! Its frustrating that people see one thing and make their own assumptions. I cant stand people who know bits and pieces of a story and made their own story in the end to tell the world. Hello...God gave you 2 ears so you can listen to both side of the story and then be smart about it not judgemental.
Anyway I didnt even know why he didnt have his lunch. I didnt even disallow him to eat. Therefore it was ridiculous that I am being accused like that.
Another incident that has been ha
ppening these few days also involve another parent but this time it is with my colleague. You know, the usual, wild accusations, lies, pretences, being a hypocrite. I cant stand people like that. They want to know how to improve their children but when we tell them how, they are in total denial. Initially I couldnt understand why these parents refuse to work together with the teachers. Now I understand that some of them deny that a problem exists so that they dont have to deal with them. And dont think that we didnt approach it the right way. We did and it has worked well with some open minded parents. I cant help it if there are idiots out there.Apparently some of the parents also thinks that a feedback from the teacher regarding a child is always classified as a complaint. Its like we have nothing better to do than to complain all the time. Heloooooooooooooo........if we dont care about a child, we wouldnt be getting all these headaches! We feedback because we care about the development of the child! My salary does not depend on the number of students who do well in studies!
I refuse to let this incident affect me. I am leaving anyway and everything that has been happening at work recently have further made me more determined and leave. Start afresh with other children who need more help. A change of environment is necessary for further growth. There is really no point in getting all worked up. I will get more lines on my face! I have also decided to send a proper 'good' resignation letter. I know my evil boss does not deserve such a letter, she deserve a more nasty letter from me. Someone told me not to fight with a pig. I wont win but we will both get dirty. Stooping down to such a level is pointless.
Things are starting to look up in business and job. I cant wait.
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