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Where is the fairy tale life after marriage? / Monday, March 27, 2006 @ 8:51 AM
Last night was the last episode of 'Erlin Montel', the show I talked about last week. For the benefit of those who dont know, 'Erlin Montel' is a show about a fat girl looking for love and beauty. It ended last night with her marrying her true love-- or so they said. I really
like the show. It must have been one of the most entertaining malay shows I have ever watched. I realised that I dont watched enough of malay shows. My parents made me feel like I am betraying my mother tongue language for that matter. Its because most malay dramas always end the same way-- someone getting married. As much I want to believe that all stories that ended with marriages are the happy endings that we want to look forward to in each and every story, I am sceptical about it. Its not that I am pessimist or anything like that. Its just disturbing that they always put getting married as the end of a story. In reality you and I know that marriage is definitely not the end of a story.
I think movie and television show directors have all been in conspiracy in putting this idea in our heads. They make love stories seem so easy and fairy tale like when in actual fact its not true. In a relationship between 2 people, even with friends, it requires a lot of time, effort and commitment for it to work well.
I dont mean to offend any malays but the older generation of malays seem to have this idea that marriage marks the end of a story. They somehow have this weird perception that marriages marks the point of being settled. But do all married people feel settled after marriage? Correct me if I am wrong but I dont think so. Getting adjusted to someone's else life, living a new life is not settled, producing a new life. Its unsettled. I dont understand why they call it 'settling down.'
It used to not bother me when relatives, friends ask me when I am getting married. I dragged myself to family reunions just because of this. Its endless! Its like, dont they have any other question to ask me? Is this the only thing on their mind?! But when the years gone by and I realised that I am no longer 21, yes that thing they call the biological clock seem to be ticking louder and louder and it can give me a migraine. I am sitting on the fences where one side is asking me to go get married and the other side is cheering me on to achieve some of my unfufilled dreams first. It can get confusing at times.
Everyone is in such a hurry to see me go get married and I dont understand why it should bother them so much. Some of my dear friends have been introducing guys to me and I really appreciate the concern but in the hurry, I dont want to let myself be swayed by the watchers and the commentators. Although I dont believe that there is such thing called 'love at first sight', I do believe in knowing the people I meet personally first before even thinking about marriage. And no, its not that I have commitment issues.
Therefore I have decided to come out of the closet and announce that I am single! Woohoo! For those of you who are so eager to see me finally with somebody, you can go ahead and introduce to me as many people as you want. I shall not turn down offers anymore. BUT I must make myself clear that I dont make any promises to start anything whatsoever. Dont put too much hope in it! Haha. However, I must advise you to just follow some general guidelines that I have taken the liberty to list them.
General Guidelines:
1. That person must be a guy, it must never be a girl. I am sooo straight.
2. He must be from the age range of 27-35. Anything above that will be a disaster like my last date.
3. He must not be a loafer. Must be working, or have a business of is own.
4. Sense of humour. This is must have for me! I will be bored to death with anyone who dont have any jokes or dont laugh at any of my stupid jokes. I mean it.
5. Must not be psychotic, clingy and afraid of lizards of any creepy crawlers. I hate creepy crawlers!
Hmmmmmmmm.......just 5 guidelines. I think its pretty reasonable dont you think? If you notice I dont really bother much about physical outlook and I believe that personality is more important.
And yes, I do know that the perfect man does not exist.
Last night was the last episode of 'Erlin Montel', the show I talked about last week. For the benefit of those who dont know, 'Erlin Montel' is a show about a fat girl looking for love and beauty. It ended last night with her marrying her true love-- or so they said. I really
like the show. It must have been one of the most entertaining malay shows I have ever watched. I realised that I dont watched enough of malay shows. My parents made me feel like I am betraying my mother tongue language for that matter. Its because most malay dramas always end the same way-- someone getting married. As much I want to believe that all stories that ended with marriages are the happy endings that we want to look forward to in each and every story, I am sceptical about it. Its not that I am pessimist or anything like that. Its just disturbing that they always put getting married as the end of a story. In reality you and I know that marriage is definitely not the end of a story.I think movie and television show directors have all been in conspiracy in putting this idea in our heads. They make love stories seem so easy and fairy tale like when in actual fact its not true. In a relationship between 2 people, even with friends, it requires a lot of time, effort and commitment for it to work well.
I dont mean to offend any malays but the older generation of malays seem to have this idea that marriage marks the end of a story. They somehow have this weird perception that marriages marks the point of being settled. But do all married people feel settled after marriage? Correct me if I am wrong but I dont think so. Getting adjusted to someone's else life, living a new life is not settled, producing a new life. Its unsettled. I dont understand why they call it 'settling down.'
It used to not bother me when relatives, friends ask me when I am getting married. I dragged myself to family reunions just because of this. Its endless! Its like, dont they have any other question to ask me? Is this the only thing on their mind?! But when the years gone by and I realised that I am no longer 21, yes that thing they call the biological clock seem to be ticking louder and louder and it can give me a migraine. I am sitting on the fences where one side is asking me to go get married and the other side is cheering me on to achieve some of my unfufilled dreams first. It can get confusing at times.
Everyone is in such a hurry to see me go get married and I dont understand why it should bother them so much. Some of my dear friends have been introducing guys to me and I really appreciate the concern but in the hurry, I dont want to let myself be swayed by the watchers and the commentators. Although I dont believe that there is such thing called 'love at first sight', I do believe in knowing the people I meet personally first before even thinking about marriage. And no, its not that I have commitment issues.
Therefore I have decided to come out of the closet and announce that I am single! Woohoo! For those of you who are so eager to see me finally with somebody, you can go ahead and introduce to me as many people as you want. I shall not turn down offers anymore. BUT I must make myself clear that I dont make any promises to start anything whatsoever. Dont put too much hope in it! Haha. However, I must advise you to just follow some general guidelines that I have taken the liberty to list them.
General Guidelines:
1. That person must be a guy, it must never be a girl. I am sooo straight.
2. He must be from the age range of 27-35. Anything above that will be a disaster like my last date.
3. He must not be a loafer. Must be working, or have a business of is own.
4. Sense of humour. This is must have for me! I will be bored to death with anyone who dont have any jokes or dont laugh at any of my stupid jokes. I mean it.
5. Must not be psychotic, clingy and afraid of lizards of any creepy crawlers. I hate creepy crawlers!
Hmmmmmmmm.......just 5 guidelines. I think its pretty reasonable dont you think? If you notice I dont really bother much about physical outlook and I believe that personality is more important.
And yes, I do know that the perfect man does not exist.
